Counselling

ARE YOU LOOKING FOR ADVICE AND HELP?
WHAT CAN I EXPECT FROM COUNSELLING AT BDB?
EXAMPLES OF COUNSELLING CASES


 

ARE YOU LOOKING FOR ADVICE AND HELP?

Have you been treated worse than others due to your “skin colour”, nationality, culture or religion? We listen to what you have experienced and together with you, we will look for a solution to deal with it.

Do you have an idea for something you want to do to fight unequal treatment or racism and are looking for information and support to do so? 

We look for a solution together with you!

Feel free to get in touch with us!

Tel: 030 / 216 88 84

Email: bdb(at)bdb-germany.de

Consultation hours:

Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays, Fridays

11:00 am – 3:00 pm

 

Consultation: By appointment

 


 

WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT FROM COUNSELLING AT BDB?

The BDB supports people who are affected by discrimination. We listen to you and your experiences and help you to develop strategies for how you can deal with them and strengthen yourself in the process.

There are a number of possibilities for intervention which can be developed on a case-by-case basis in order to strengthen the person affected. For example, we write to institutions, mediate in cases of conflict and offer opportunities to bring this case to the public. We are also there if you just want to talk about it.

Ultimately the decision is up to you as to what path you take.

We would like to point out that BDB does not provide legal advice. However, we can provide contact with lawyers or specialist counselling offices.

Counselling with BDB is free of charge. However, we cannot cover any costs such as travel, because the BDB is a non-profit organisation.


 

EXAMPLES OF COUNSELLING CASES

Case example 1: Access to recreational facilities

Three friends who know each other from their vocational training classes get together to go dancing. Mr. G is 19 years old, his friend Mr. B. is 21 years old and Mr. A. is 17 years old.

In the queue in front of the club, the three spend their time in casual conversation, Mr. G and Mr. B having a Russian accent. At the entrance, they are asked to show their IDs. Both men have an ID with a Russian sounding place of birth since they are co-nationals (Aussiedler). The bouncer refuses to let Mr. G. and Mr B. enter. When asked why, he stated that he is not permitted to allow in “people like them” because the female guests are so often bothered by them. However, he would allow Mr. A to come in. The friends consult each other briefly and decide to go home instead.

Options for action

Counselling Recognition of injured feelings,

Clarification and development of options for action

Personal conflict advice Offender-victim compensation (assuming there are offenders and that their identity is known),

Discussion with the operators of the dance club

Publicity Write articles or inform the press

Call to boycott the club

Court Civil action suit under the AGG
Other Discussions with the Office of Public Order regarding which requirements the club must meet in order to keep its concession licence

Case example 2: Practising religion

17-year old K. is in the 11th grade at a grammar school. Before she eats her lunch, she prays briefly and thanks God for her food. She is then repeatedly called “Mother Theresa” and “Virgin Mary” by her classmates in the schoolyard. Another time she is not invited to a classmate’s birthday with the reasoning: “We do not need a pious churchgoer!”. K. feels insulted and attacked. K. tries to talk with her class teacher about it, but the teacher thinks that the exclusion is not due to her practice of religion and blames it on “puberty”. K. feels misunderstood. At home, she tells her parents about being excluded, but they do not dare do anything out of fear that their child could have more problems at school if they were to make this an issue with her teachers and school director.

Options for action

Consultation Recognition of injured feelings,

Clarification and elaboration of options for action

Personal conflict advice Offender-victim compensation (assuming there are offenders and that their identity is known),

Talk with the parents and class teacher, possibly with the director of the school

Public Organise a parents’ evening regarding the matter
Court
Other

Case example 3: Racist insults while in traffic

Mr. N., a man of Vietnamese origin, is involved in a car accident that he did not cause. Another car hit him from behind. The person who caused the accident, Mr. A., gets out of his car and accuses Mr. N. of being a bad driver. Mr. N. defends himself and emphasises that he himself is not guilty, because he has properly followed the rules of the road. Then the Mr. A. starts to insult Mr. N. in an aggressive tone with the words, “Where did you learn to drive, monkey?” Despite Mr. N.’s efforts to calm him down to discuss the matter calmly, Mr. A. continues to talk aggressively to him and insult him in a racist way, using the word “Fiji” several times. Mr. N. feels offended and hurt.

Options for action

Consultation Clarify and develop options for action
Personal conflict processing Offender-victim compensation (assuming there is an offender and that his/her identity is known)
Public Write a flyer or article
Court File an insult complaint

Check whether specific responsible persons can be located

Check whether particular laws or regulations can be applied in this case

 Other  —